Welcome back to the Remodel Your Reality Challenge! Now that you’ve gotten a handle on your physical and mental energy, it’s time to think about your emotional energy – your feelings and your reactions to those feelings.
The emotional factor of energy has a powerful effect on your vitality and your sense of self. Treating other people with respect, taking action on your own behalf, and communicating clearly will help you maximize your emotional power.
One Thing To Think About
The emotional factors of energy are usually the most challenging to deal with. These have to do with life experiences that are unresolved and are directly linked to your interactions with other people. They can be charged with angst—such as feelings of guilt, shame, fear, embarrassment, frustration, anger, and regret.
One Question To Answer
Is your emotional energy strong, or is it being drained by unresolved or unaddressed issues?
Experiences that impact your emotions only diminish your energy when they’re left unresolved. The best way to determine if a situation is unresolved is to connect with the charge of feeling you have associated with the experience. If you can recall the scenario with a level of neutrality and calm, it’s probable that you’ve reached a level of closure related to that event. It’s even possible you’ve pulled valuable lessons from your encounter.
If, however, you feel a jolt of emotion, such as anger, fear, shame, embarrassment, or regret when recalling the event, it’s likely you have some unresolved feelings to contend with. These are the experiences that use precious units of your energy and that you need to inventory.
Take the following assessment, designed to help you identify where you may be losing emotional energy. Answer either yes or no to each question.
- Do you tell the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable to do so?
- Do you say no to invitations you aren’t interested in accepting?
- Do you spend time only with people you like and enjoy?
- Do you require the people in your life to treat you with respect?
- Do you feel loved and accepted by those closest to you?
- Have you accepted the experiences in your past?
- Have you let go of any past anger or regret?
- Are you able to ask for what you want?
- Are your current relationships clean and constructive?
Any question you answered no to is very likely contributing to your energy deficit. These are more complex issues than those within your physical or mental inventories. For that reason, you may need to approach them more slowly, carefully, and thoughtfully.
One Challenge To Take
Identify one situation in your emotional inventory that you feel ready to address. Get clear about what you require to resolve the situation.
- Do you simply need to process it? If so, writing a letter allowing yourself to express your feelings may be enough to reach resolution.
- Would you like an apology or a changed behavior from the other person? Once you’re clear about what you’d like to communicate, arrange to have a conversation with the other person during a time when you will be uninterrupted.
- Do you need to make amends or take action on your own behalf? If so, get clear about what you’re sorry for, or the circumstances you’d like to create for yourself.
Decide to work through only one item at a time and allow yourself to move at a comfortable pace. Seek the support of a close friend, family member, or your coach, and remember that small steps will lead you to the energetic liberation you seek.
Until next time, take care!